Confessions of a Godly Wife - Disturbing His Peace

One of the toughest concepts for me to grab and understand is the value of holding my peace. I had to learn the hard way that everything and every conversation did not need my input or response. This ultimately led to me accepting that I don't know everything - imagine that. 

There was a season in our marriage where my husband kept saying all he wanted was some peace. I was confused because in my mind, I wasn't doing anything wrong. It was odd because although I felt that I wasn't doing anything wrong, I noticed he was not happy, he would often walk around holding his head, and he enjoyed spending his time off work away from me in his office and mancave. 

I would cry and pray to God complaining that we don't spend enough quality time together, I didn't feel like a priority. I didn't understand because I spent a lot of time praying for my marriage and family. I was cooking and cleaning and caring for the child, why wouldn't he want to be around me or do things with me. 

In prayer one morning, I heard the words "hold your peace". I knew the Lord was instructing me to be quiet LOL. We had an incident where we were waiting on Sunday school materials to be delivered so that I could distribute them in time. I had previously said to my husband that we placed the order to late and that it wouldn't arrive in time. I was super worried because people depended on me to get their books to them in time. We finally placed the order, and I was waiting for them to be delivered to me. Two weeks passed and I still did not have them. Then, he started questioning about the books. In my mind, I said "we wouldn't have this problem if you would have ordered them when I told you to". But I decided to obey God, and I held my peace. I didn't say a mumbling word. 

My husband went to the post office, and they were there, waiting for us to pick them up. And they had been there for one week. He called me from the post office to tell me that he had them and we could deliver them. I dropped to my knees to thank God, but also and more importantly to repent for my improper thoughts. It was at the moment that I realized my inappropriate thoughts could have led to an unnecessary argument. And that opened my heart to accept that I was disturbing my husband's peace by not holding my peace. Because the real truth is I usually had something to say about everything. 

By holding my peace, and letting the Lord fight my battles, I avoided contention and confusion in the marriage. But I had to accept, admit and change the fact that I had done and said many things that were unnecessary and that disturbed him. God was not happy with my behavior and my words. They were having a terrible impact on His son. I was pushing the man away and didn't even realize it. I had to humble myself, set a guard upon my lips, change my attitude, behavior, and conversations to restore peace in my marriage and give my husband a peace of mind. 

Now, I am more thoughtful and careful about what I release out of my mouth. I think first and sometimes I even write it down and read it out loud to hear how it sounds. I have learned to use words that edify and not cause offense or contention. As Godly wives, it is imperative that we are not only hearers but doers of the Word of God, especially in our home. Be a peacemaker in the marriage, do not disturb your husband's peace. Ask God to show you how you are contributing to causing him frustration. The same goes for husbands, you should endeavor not to disturb your wife's peace. 

A Hot & Holy Marriage is filled with peace!

God bless,

Pastor Chara Taylor - These are my confessions!