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Ask Chara: What If Valentine’s Day Reminds Me of What We’re Missing? 2/12/2026

Ask Chara: What If Valentine’s Day Reminds Me o...

Valentine’s Day has a way of magnifying gaps Valentine’s Day doesn’t create problems—it exposes them. The cards, the flowers, the social media posts, the expectations…They highlight the distance between what...

Ask Chara: What If Valentine’s Day Reminds Me o...

Valentine’s Day has a way of magnifying gaps Valentine’s Day doesn’t create problems—it exposes them. The cards, the flowers, the social media posts, the expectations…They highlight the distance between what...

Ask Chara: Why Does Valentine’s Day Always Fall on Me? Don’t Men Deserve to Feel Celebrated Too? 2/5/2026

Ask Chara: Why Does Valentine’s Day Always Fall...

This isn’t about competition—it’s about mutual celebration This conversation isn’t about taking something away from women. It’s about expanding the vision of intimacy so that both spouses feel valued. When...

Ask Chara: Why Does Valentine’s Day Always Fall...

This isn’t about competition—it’s about mutual celebration This conversation isn’t about taking something away from women. It’s about expanding the vision of intimacy so that both spouses feel valued. When...

Ask Chara: My Spouse Wants Sex for Valentine’s Day, but I Don’t Feel Emotionally Connected. What Do I Do? 1/29/2026

Ask Chara: My Spouse Wants Sex for Valentine’s ...

Let’s clear something up: emotional connection is not a “moving target” A lot of wives feel guilty because they think: “If I loved him more, I would just want sex.”...

Ask Chara: My Spouse Wants Sex for Valentine’s ...

Let’s clear something up: emotional connection is not a “moving target” A lot of wives feel guilty because they think: “If I loved him more, I would just want sex.”...

Ask Chara: Why Don’t I Feel Excited About Valentine’s Day Anymore? 1/22/2026

Ask Chara: Why Don’t I Feel Excited About Valen...

Valentine’s Day can expose unresolved disappointment Valentine’s Day carries a lot of emotional weight. It’s symbolic. It’s visible. It’s public.

Ask Chara: Why Don’t I Feel Excited About Valen...

Valentine’s Day can expose unresolved disappointment Valentine’s Day carries a lot of emotional weight. It’s symbolic. It’s visible. It’s public.

Ask Chara: My Husband Watches Porn - Do I Leave or Lean In? January 8, 2026

Ask Chara: My Husband Watches Porn - Do I Leave...

Here’s the bottom line: Porn is the counterfeit. You are the covenant.The enemy wants division, but God gave you authority to fight for your bedroom and your marriage. Lean in...

Ask Chara: My Husband Watches Porn - Do I Leave...

Here’s the bottom line: Porn is the counterfeit. You are the covenant.The enemy wants division, but God gave you authority to fight for your bedroom and your marriage. Lean in...

Dear Chara: My Husband Wants a Traditional Wife, but God’s Calling Me to Be a Boss Girl — How Do We Find Balance? 1/1/2026

Dear Chara: My Husband Wants a Traditional Wife...

My final thoughts are that marriage in this generation requires new choreography. You can honor your husband and your hustle when you remember that your business is ministry too. God...

Dear Chara: My Husband Wants a Traditional Wife...

My final thoughts are that marriage in this generation requires new choreography. You can honor your husband and your hustle when you remember that your business is ministry too. God...