Dear Chara: My Husband Doesn’t Like PDA — What Should I Do? Response...

Sis… my husband’s the same way sometimes — you are seen! And you’re not alone in this.

✨ 1️⃣ Respect His Boundaries.
If he’s not a public hand-holder or kisser, don’t force it. But don’t ignore your own need for affection, either.

✨ 2️⃣ Find Your Compromise.
Maybe sneak kisses in the car, hold hands under the table, or leave flirty notes in his wallet. Private PDA is still PDA. When you are working on the compromise, be sure to ask what he is willing to do to show you PDA. The compromise should work on both ends. See if you can accept what he is willing to do and ask for some things you would like to do. 

✨ 3️⃣ Remember: Affection Isn’t Only Physical.
Verbal affirmations, small favors, and quality time can fill your love tank too.

Marriage is a rhythm — sometimes you gotta find the beat together. 💕

Other things to consider include understanding the why behind it. It is OK to ask him why he doesn't like it. This can help you navigate your feelings and expectations. Often times, couples have personality clashes and the clash of love languages. Learning and understanding one another's personality are important to the health of your marriage. And, knowing both of your love languages and then speaking them are keys to a thriving marriage. But you have to be flexible and understand because you are both different with different likes, tastes, and personalities, what you want, and desire may look different than you thought. But it doesn't mean that it is bad! 

Keep learning each other and growing together! Stay blessed and keep it Hot & Holy!

~Chara "Your Hot & Holy Hype Woman (for Christian Marriages)