Dear Chara: I Think I Broke My Husband’s Penis! ~ Response

The Question Submitted 6/21/2025: 

we were getting frisky and I may have broken my husband’s penis! We are older. He has a medical condition that makes his penis a little crooked, so whenever I lower myself onto him, I have to go at an angle. I know the drill (no pun intended), we’ve been accommodating his curve a long time. But I may have been a bit overzealous! He has been in low level pain ever since. He has an appointment with a urologist next month (that’s the soonest appointment he could get). Do you have any suggestions besides medical intervention?

 

Dear Older & Frisky,

Whewwww… first of all, Queen — I LOVE your honesty! Y’all out here proving that age does not cancel passion — and I’m here to celebrate every Holy Ghost wiggle, curve, and blessing in that bedroom! 💃🏽🔥

Now, let’s lovingly break this down (pun intended, because I’m still giggling a little):

✨ 1️⃣ First, Take a Bow for Still Getting Frisky at 70!

You and your husband are goals — and I mean that. Longevity and intimacy don’t always go hand-in-hand, but y’all are clearly keeping it hot and holy, and I love to see it.

✨ 2️⃣ Be Gentle With That Curve.

A curved penis (especially from Peyronie’s disease or age-related conditions) can make certain angles tricky. It’s a beautiful thing that you’ve learned how to ride that rhythm with care, but every now and then — a little extra bounce can hit the wrong angle. 😬

If your husband is still in low-level pain days later, it’s possible he’s dealing with either:

• Minor trauma (bruising or tissue strain)

• Or a micro-tear in the surrounding tissue

It’s rare to fully break a penis (there’s no bone), but the tissue can absolutely be damaged during sudden, off-angle motion — especially during partner-on-top positions where you’re controlling depth.

✨ 3️⃣ Suggestions Until His Urology Appointment:

While you’re waiting on the doctor (and I’m so glad you already scheduled that!), here’s what you can do to ease discomfort and promote healing:

✅ Pause sexual activity — no pressure, no friction, no attempts to "test" anything until cleared.
✅ Use a cold compress gently for 15–20 minutes a few times a day to reduce swelling.
✅ OTC pain relievers (like ibuprofen or Tylenol) can help manage discomfort but always follow his doctor’s advice or restrictions.
✅ Watch for warning signs like dark bruising, significant swelling, or increasing pain — if any of that shows up, head to urgent care.

✨ 4️⃣ Moving Forward, Consider Position Support Tools

Once he’s cleared, if this has been a pattern, you may want to try using:

• Angled support pillows or wedge cushions to help align your bodies more gently

• A slow-build approach using Knead Me massage oil or sensual foreplay tools so you’re not going from 0 to 100 too fast

• And perhaps even a couple’s toy with flexible range so you two can enjoy closeness without strain

💌 Bottom Line:

Queen, your marriage bed is blessed — even with the holy mishaps 😅. I’m praying healing over your husband, peace over your mind, and joyful laughter between you both while you wait for his appointment. Y’all are proof that love and intimacy don’t retire — they just get more creative!

Keep it holy. Keep it humorous. And when in doubt… ease up on the bounce 😘

With love,
Chara 💛✨

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✨ Why I Love It: This toy supports both of you, adds shared stimulation, and helps you keep things spicy while staying sanctified. A beautiful way to explore new things in a covenant-safe space. Click the image below to grab it!